...I love my family, so why cant I continue hiding my feelings anymore and keep everything under control? I feel like my life is spinning out of control. Why me? Why now? I feel so lost, ashamed, alone, and frightened.

In fact, you are not alone. There are many other gay or bisexual fathers who share your feelings and your struggle. Over 30 years ago, men like you formed the Gay Fathers Association of Seattle (GFAS) to provide a safe and supportive environment for all gay or bisexual men who have children and their families. Every man is welcome.

Every Thursday evening the Association hosts a safe and anonymous support group meeting from 7:30 to 9:00pm at the Group Health Cooperative, Capitol Hill campus in Seattle. Additionally, a bisexual men's breakout meeting is held in conjunction with the support group meeting on the second Thursday of each month.

Words from a member
"I first learned of the groups existence through the SGN [Seattle Gay News] classified listings. Not sure of what I would be getting myself in for I carried the info around for weeks before making contact. My wife encouraged me to do so. Once I took that step I found an amazing group of men on the same journey as I, welcoming me into the group. Under the guidelines of confidentiality, honesty, speaking our own truths & not telling others what to do, the group provided me the space to share openly and without fear. Ive gained insight, perspective and support for making my life decisions. An added plus for me has been the opportunity to contribute to the group process and support my fellow members."

WHAT CAN I EXPECT WHEN I ATTEND A SUPPORT GROUP MEETING?
Prepare to be warmly greeted and listened to, at whatever your comfort level. Theres no pressure in this friendly and supportive group setting. Our participants range in age, experience, exposures to religion, and diverse cultures. Every month there are new men who arrive at the support meetings. Each brings their personal perspective as the group works together through issues such as parenting, coming out, relationships with wives, children, families, friends, and partners.

Words from a member
an amazing group of men on the same journey as I, welcoming me into the group. Under the guidelines of confidentiality, honesty, speaking our own truths and not telling others what to do, the group provided me the space to share openly and without fear. Ive gained insight, perspective and support for making my life decisions.

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