Various members of GFAS have found these books helpful or of interest and recommended them to this list.

  • The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World, Alan Downs PhD
  • The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love, Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
  • Straight Jacket: Overcoming Society’s Legacy of Gay Shame, Matthew Todd
  • Out of the Shadows: Reimagining Gay Men’s Lives, Walt Odets
  • Loving Someone Gay: Don Clark PhD
  • 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives: Joe Kort PhD
  • The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment, Eckhart Tolle
  • The Other Side of Silence: Men’s Lives and Gay Identities: A Twentieth Century History, John Loughery
  • Gay Seattle: Gary L. Atkins
  • Stonewall: The Riots That Sparked the Gay Revolution, David Carter
  • Farm Boys: Lives of Gay Men from the Rural Midwest, Will Fellows
  • Boys Like Us: Gay Writers Tell Their Coming Out Stories, Patrick Merla
  • My Lives: An Autobiography, Edmund White
  • A Boy’s Own Story: A Novel, Edmund White
  • The Best Little Boy in the World: John Reid
  • A Queer Geography: Journeys toward a sexual self, Frank Browning
  • Becoming a Man: Half a Life Story, Paul Monette
  • On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous: Ocean Vuong
  • How We Fight for Our Lives: A Memoir, Saeed Jones
  • Becoming a Man: The Story of a Transition, P. Carl


This is not a comprehensive list of resources in the greater Seattle area. They have been recommended to this list by support group members who have found them helpful, but they have not been vetted by GFAS.